« Why am I always tired? » This question has become a constant companion, whispering in the back of my mind as I drag myself through each day. The fatigue feels like a weight I can’t shake, a fog that clouds my thoughts and saps my energy. No matter how much I sleep, how many cups of coffee I drink, or how many breaks I take, the exhaustion persists. It’s more than just a physical tiredness; it’s a deep, pervasive weariness that affects every aspect of my life.

I remember when it first started, thinking it was just a phase. Maybe I was working too hard, not getting enough rest, or not eating right. I tried to make changes—going to bed earlier, eating healthier, and even cutting back on my commitments. But nothing seemed to help. The tiredness remained, and with it came frustration and a sense of helplessness.

It’s hard to explain this kind of fatigue to others. When people ask how I’m doing, I hesitate to say « tired » because it feels inadequate. Everyone gets tired, right? But this is different. It’s a tiredness that doesn’t go away with a good night’s sleep or a relaxing weekend. It’s a constant, unrelenting feeling that makes even the simplest tasks feel monumental.

I’ve started to wonder if there’s something wrong with me. Am I just not as strong or resilient as others? Why can’t I keep up? The comparisons to those who seem to effortlessly juggle work, family, and social life only deepen my sense of inadequacy. I see friends who work long hours, go out in the evenings, and still manage to look fresh and energized. Meanwhile, I struggle to get through a regular day without feeling like I need to collapse.

The truth is, there are many possible reasons for chronic fatigue, and it can take time to identify the root cause. Stress and anxiety can be significant factors. I’ve realized that carrying the weight of constant worry and pressure takes a toll on my body and mind. Even when I’m not actively thinking about my stressors, they’re there in the background, draining my energy.

Physical health issues can also play a role. Conditions like anemia, thyroid disorders, and sleep apnea are just a few examples of medical reasons behind persistent tiredness. It took me a while to consider that there might be an underlying health issue contributing to my fatigue. Seeking medical advice and getting a thorough check-up was a crucial step in understanding my body’s needs.

Lifestyle choices are another piece of the puzzle. Our modern world is fast-paced and demanding, often leaving little room for rest and self-care. I realized that my constant connectivity—checking emails late at night, scrolling through social media, and being always available—was contributing to my exhaustion. It’s hard to disconnect and give myself permission to rest when there’s always something that needs to be done.

Emotional fatigue is another layer. Carrying the weight of unresolved emotions, grief, or past traumas can be incredibly draining. I’ve found that addressing these emotional burdens through therapy and self-reflection has been vital in my journey to reclaiming my energy. It’s not easy to confront these feelings, but it’s necessary for healing.

I’ve also learned that self-compassion is crucial. It’s easy to be hard on myself, to feel like I’m failing because I can’t keep up. But beating myself up only adds to the exhaustion. Instead, I’m trying to be kinder to myself, to recognize that I’m doing my best in a challenging situation. It’s okay to rest, to say no, and to prioritize my well-being.

Creating a routine that supports my energy levels has been important too. This means establishing regular sleep patterns, nourishing my body with healthy foods, and incorporating gentle exercise into my day. It’s about finding a balance that works for me, rather than trying to meet some external standard of productivity.

To anyone else who is struggling with chronic fatigue, know that you are not alone. Your feelings are valid, and your experience is real. It’s important to seek help, whether it’s from a healthcare provider, a therapist, or a supportive community. Don’t be afraid to advocate for yourself and to take the steps necessary to care for your well-being.

« Why am I always tired? » Because life is complex, and many factors contribute to our energy levels. But by understanding the root causes, seeking help, and practicing self-compassion, we can begin to find our way out of the fog. It’s a journey, and it’s okay to take it one step at a time. Your energy, your health, and your well-being are worth the effort.

-With love,

H.